The other day in my school I noticed a roly-poly cute child wandering in search of the venue of the afterschool tennis class. As I guided her, I pressed her cheeks and exclaimed how sweet she was! To my dismay, she replied , "No Ma'am! I'm not sweet! I am fat!"
I was taken aback! Such a small child with such low self-esteem! How come she felt this way? And then... this realization dawned upon me. It's not only the little girl! Many of us, at some point or the other suffer from this inferiority complex regarding our physical features!...a feeling that we are not enough good-looking or an apprehension with certain body parts or plainly when we feel we do not have the perfect features or a perfect skin-tone!!!
There is always something about us that we'd like to change...don't we? And I'm no different. I hate my nose coz I feel it's way too small as compared to my face! And my eyes?? Even a generous use of Maybelline Colossal cannot make them stand out! Phew! And my pale complexion makes me look like a white ghost in most of my pics (Lol!) . Gawwd! I lust for Nicole Kidman's nose oh so badly! :-P
My sister has always had problems with her curls! She gets all worked up and upset everytime she has to go to a party as she is never able to style her hair easily. The curls have become a source of constant worry and she just cannot stop whining and grumbling! Her aim in life is to have her straightened with her first salary! Personally I feel she looks great with those lovely jet black maggi like hair rolling down her face like waves. She looks too cute! Her hair lends her, her personality and style! But she'll never believe me!
Supermodel Cindy Crawford once said, "Even I do not wake up every morning looking like Cindy Crawford!"
Most of us crave for physical attractiveness, a standard that we subconsciously set for ourselves in our minds and constantly compare ourselves to this virtual image! The inspirations are drawn from other people we see or meet or know, or from page 3, posters, tv, movies and magazines! As we repeatedly compare, we deject ourselves and feel constantly low and demotivated. We start hating ourselves for who we are and forget to respect our body and mind! When we look at the mirror we do not like what it reflects! Some of us punish our body in the most impossible fashion (read usage of expensive creams and lotions, erratic diets and surgeries) denying it of all the care and affection it demands...Net result? We either gain the perfection or we don't! Either ways, and let me ask you this, does this bring about any change in the way you are loved by your near and dear ones?
The answer is that it doesn't! Coz they already love you for who you are irrespective of how perfect you are!!!
What we tend to forget is that our physical flaws become our individuality, our identity and our uniqueness. A scar or a mark denotes strength, a physical feature explains legacy and a bulge simply denotes prosperity! Every physical flaw is a sign of experience, accomplishment, and most important, what we perceive as ugly in us could actually seem attractive and praiseworthy in the eyes of others! You will realize that you will be known and appreciated for who your are!
“I myself am made entirely of flaws, stitched together with good intentions.”
How do you think it'll be if everybody had perfect features and looked gorgeous and possessed the most striking skin tone? Wouldn't we all lose ourselves amidst the crowd? Would we still appreciate beauty and uniqueness as we do now? And who can tell me what yardstick we use to measure how beautiful one is?
The first thing that one should do is to love oneself as one is! (Since I am saying this let me also tell you that even I have finally come to terms with my small nose and kind of errrr started liking it a wee bit now! No matter what, it's staying for good! lol)
Nothing's perfect, the world's not perfect. But it's there for us, trying the best it can; that's what makes it so damn beautiful.”
Love your flaws! Love others flaws too... And never never forget to love yourself! Only then, the others will love you!
I was taken aback! Such a small child with such low self-esteem! How come she felt this way? And then... this realization dawned upon me. It's not only the little girl! Many of us, at some point or the other suffer from this inferiority complex regarding our physical features!...a feeling that we are not enough good-looking or an apprehension with certain body parts or plainly when we feel we do not have the perfect features or a perfect skin-tone!!!
My sister has always had problems with her curls! She gets all worked up and upset everytime she has to go to a party as she is never able to style her hair easily. The curls have become a source of constant worry and she just cannot stop whining and grumbling! Her aim in life is to have her straightened with her first salary! Personally I feel she looks great with those lovely jet black maggi like hair rolling down her face like waves. She looks too cute! Her hair lends her, her personality and style! But she'll never believe me!
Supermodel Cindy Crawford once said, "Even I do not wake up every morning looking like Cindy Crawford!"
Most of us crave for physical attractiveness, a standard that we subconsciously set for ourselves in our minds and constantly compare ourselves to this virtual image! The inspirations are drawn from other people we see or meet or know, or from page 3, posters, tv, movies and magazines! As we repeatedly compare, we deject ourselves and feel constantly low and demotivated. We start hating ourselves for who we are and forget to respect our body and mind! When we look at the mirror we do not like what it reflects! Some of us punish our body in the most impossible fashion (read usage of expensive creams and lotions, erratic diets and surgeries) denying it of all the care and affection it demands...Net result? We either gain the perfection or we don't! Either ways, and let me ask you this, does this bring about any change in the way you are loved by your near and dear ones?
The answer is that it doesn't! Coz they already love you for who you are irrespective of how perfect you are!!!
“I myself am made entirely of flaws, stitched together with good intentions.”
How do you think it'll be if everybody had perfect features and looked gorgeous and possessed the most striking skin tone? Wouldn't we all lose ourselves amidst the crowd? Would we still appreciate beauty and uniqueness as we do now? And who can tell me what yardstick we use to measure how beautiful one is?
The first thing that one should do is to love oneself as one is! (Since I am saying this let me also tell you that even I have finally come to terms with my small nose and kind of errrr started liking it a wee bit now! No matter what, it's staying for good! lol)
Nothing's perfect, the world's not perfect. But it's there for us, trying the best it can; that's what makes it so damn beautiful.”
Love your flaws! Love others flaws too... And never never forget to love yourself! Only then, the others will love you!
